I really appreciated this message on the Tabernacle Choir's Music and the Spoken Word broadcast last night:
Life, it could be
said, is a series of choices. While it’s true that we are surrounded by people
and problems, they do not determine our course. Yes, we are influenced by
things that are beyond our control, but what really makes us who we are is the
way we choose to respond to these influences. Our happiness, our outlook on
life, and ultimately our destiny are shaped by the choices we make, not solely
by our surroundings.
A simple analogy
illustrates this truth: Imagine a pot of boiling water. If you place an egg and
a potato into the water, after a while the egg will get harder and the potato
will get softer. Even though they’re both surrounded by the boiling water, they
respond to it differently.
Sometimes life feels
like a pot of boiling water, doesn’t it? At some point, we all find ourselves
submerged in heartache and difficulties. But as with the egg and the potato,
the same hot water can affect people in different ways. We might allow our
trials and tribulations to make us harder in our hearts, more callous toward
others, more cynical or pessimistic about the world.
On the other hand, if
we hold on to hope and strive to remain teachable, the very same trials could,
instead, soften our hearts. Over time, we will have more compassion for others
who have struggles similar to ours. We will become more patient, more
forgiving, slower to judge. We will see our trials as opportunities to identify
and correct our shortcomings. Then, not only has the trial made us softer, it
has also made us better.
We’re accustomed to
talking about softness as weakness, but in this sense, it is true strength! It
is a choice to live so that even heart-wrenching difficulties cannot weaken our
character. It is a choice to see trials not as obstacles to happiness but as
tools to refine us into happier people. So when you feel like you’re drowning
in boiling water, remember the egg and the potato. Choose to make the best of
your circumstances and respond with softness.
Lately I have been feeling overwhelmed with bad news. There is no need to go into detail here, but
suffice it to say that the recent instances of bad news that have affected me stretch from
the global to the very personal. I'm
seeing around me so much disappointment, ignorance, hate, and sorrow, and I'm
experiencing some of it myself.
Reflecting upon some of this bad news, my wife and I were
talking last night and asking ourselves “How do we raise a child in today's
world? As he continues to grow, how do
we protect him from evil?” And in a
quick moment I shifted from despair and was answering my own question: we do
the best we can to arm him with the ability to make good choices, to repent
when he makes bad choices, to protect himself from those with bad intentions,
and to rely on prayer and the Atonement of Jesus Christ. And, the reality is that he will make some
bad choices and people will hurt him to one degree or another, in the same way
that throughout the course of our lives, my wife and I have both made some bad
choices and have been hurt by others to one degree or another. But we do the best we can, and we rely on the
Atonement of Jesus Christ for the rest.
"All that is unfair about life can be made right through the Atonement of Jesus Christ."
So, I choose hope and faith rather than to dwell in despair,
worry, and sorrow.
I choose to be a potato rather than an egg.
